November 17th 2024.
Dear readers,
I've been getting a lot of questions lately about my thoughts on a certain situation. Some have asked if it's a building site, and to be honest, I wish it was! But let me explain the whole story.
You see, I am a wedding planner and venue owner, and I write a weekly agony aunt column where I help solve wedding-related dilemmas, big or small. One of my readers, Katherine, reached out to me about her upcoming wedding next summer. She and her husband-to-be found an incredible venue while on holiday, and they are already in full planning mode.
However, there's a slight issue. The wedding will take place in the grounds of a country house, in a new pavilion that the owners are currently building. Katherine and her fiance will be the very first couple to have their wedding at this new venue. Initially, this was an exciting and unique prospect, but as time goes on, Katherine is starting to get worried. Every time she visits, she notices that construction has not even started yet.
She has even had people ask her if it's a building site, but she wishes it was because at least that would mean progress is being made. She has expressed her concerns to the venue's owner and manager, but they seem to brush it off and assure her that everything will fall into place for her big day. Katherine's fiance and some friends think she's being unreasonable, but she just wants to be kept in the loop and know what's going on.
So, here's my take on the situation. First of all, let me say that planning a wedding can be incredibly stressful. Whether you're the bride, groom, best man or woman, family member, or friend of the couple, the months leading up to the big day can be tense. That's why I'm here to offer my advice and help ease some of that tension.
Katherine, I understand your frustration. It's only natural to feel nervous when it seems like no progress is being made. But don't worry, pavilions can be erected quickly, which is probably why the venue owners seem so relaxed about the situation. However, I do think you have a right to regular updates, especially since construction has not yet started. It's understandable that you feel anxious without knowing their timelines.
My advice would be to communicate openly with the venue owner or manager and ask for a timeline of the construction progress. It's essential to have an idea of what's happening and when it's expected to be completed. Also, don't be afraid to ask for updates every few weeks as the wedding gets closer. This will give you peace of mind and help you understand if everything is on track or not.
It might also be helpful to visit the site with your partner, a parent, or a member of your wedding party to get a second opinion. And while you're at it, check your wedding contract. Are there any conditions that provide you with assurance of the pavilion's use, or is there a Plan B in place if needed? It's always good to have a contingency plan, just in case.
Having been in a similar situation with my own venue, I can tell you the importance of discussing a backup plan. Trust me; it will give you peace of mind leading up to your wedding day. And speaking of peace of mind, you can also check the relevant council's website to see if the planning permission has been approved and if a building warrant has been issued to start the construction. Bureaucracy can add unexpected delays to any project, so it's always best to double-check.
Remember, wanting your wedding day to be perfect does not make you demanding. You have every right to know how long the work will take and ensure there is enough time to complete it before your big day. And once you have a clearer idea of the timelines and progress, you can relax and enjoy the planning process.
I know it can be overwhelming, but just remember that this is your special day, and everything will fall into place. I wish you all the best, Katherine, and I hope you have a wonderful and exciting wedding day.
If any of you have a similar story or need some advice, please feel free to reach out to me. I'm always here to help.
Best wishes,
Alison
P.S. Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. I'd love to hear from you!
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