July 7th 2024.
As I slipped into my wedding dress, I couldn't help but feel a sense of disappointment. I had bought this dress a year ago, when I first got engaged, and now with only two weeks left until my big day, I was having serious doubts about it. My mom and bridesmaids were there when I first tried it on and they were all in tears, telling me how lovely I looked. At the time, I wasn't completely sold on it, but I liked that it was elegant and simple, perfect for our low-key venue. And I thought it would look timeless in our wedding photos.
But as I stood in front of the mirror at my final fitting, all I could think was "ugh". It wasn't that I hated the dress, but I couldn't help but wonder if I should have gone for a big, princess-y dress instead. Lately, I had been seeing these gorgeous, elaborate dresses everywhere and now that my wedding was almost here, I couldn't help but wish I had been brave enough to choose one of those. I wanted to feel special on my wedding day, but now I was worried that wouldn't happen. I couldn't help but wonder if it was too late to try and find another dress or if I should just accept the one I already had.
Dear Suzie,
First of all, congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I know how stressful and overwhelming the planning process can be, but trust me, it will all be worth it on the big day.
Feeling anxious about your dress is completely normal, especially as the wedding gets closer. You are not alone in this, many brides go through the same experience. It's important to remember that your dress is just one aspect of your wedding and it should reflect your personal style and make you feel beautiful.
You mentioned that you don't "hate" the dress, but you have been seeing other styles that you also like. Is this feeling coming from outside influences, like seeing other dresses, or is it a genuine change in your taste? It's possible that the pressure and stress of wedding planning has caused you to second-guess your decision. Take a moment to remember why you chose this dress in the first place and the excitement you felt when you first tried it on. It clearly had a big impact on your mom and bridesmaids, so it must be a special dress.
It's easy to get caught up in trends and fads, but simple and elegant dresses have a timeless quality that will remain classy for years to come. Plus, in my experience, a bride who embraces her unique style makes a bigger statement than following the latest trends. Have an open and honest conversation with your mom and bridesmaids about your feelings. They know you best and their reassurance might help you see the dress in a new light.
However, if you still feel strongly about changing your dress, don't hesitate to reach out to the bridal shop. Some stores offer ready-to-wear options that can be tailored quickly, like sample sale dresses or off-the-rack options. Their seamstress may also have suggestions for alterations or additions to your current dress to make it feel more special and aligned with your current vision. A little bit of lace, beading, or a dramatic veil can completely transform your look.
If finding a new dress in such a short time isn't feasible, focus on the real reason behind your wedding and why you chose this dress. Your wedding is about celebrating your love and commitment, and the dress is just one part of that. What truly matters is how you feel in your dress. If you're happy and comfortable, you will radiate beauty and joy on your wedding day.
No matter what you decide, you will look stunning because you will be surrounded by love and happiness. Wishing you all the joy and confidence for your wedding day and beyond!
Best wishes,
Alison
Weddings are joyful occasions, but they can also be incredibly stressful. Whether you're the bride, groom, best man or woman, family member, or friend, the lead-up to the big day can be tense. If you have a wedding dilemma, don't hesitate to share it with us. Alison, who has been running a venue for 10 years and helping couples plan their weddings, is here to offer her expertise and support.
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