There’s no point giving yourself directions to a destination and expecting yourself to reach it if you’re using the wrong map.
And there’s no point changing your strategy and expecting victory if you’re playing the wrong game.
There’s no point screaming in frustration in either case.
It’s like complaining about gravity.
From time to time, it is helpful to take a step back and ask ourselves if we’re using the right map and playing the right game.
It starts with becoming aware about the game we’re playing, being clear about what we want to get out of it, and then making the right moves.