“It fell” vs. “I dropped it”
“I can’t” vs. “I won’t”
“I am not good at that” vs. “I am not good at that yet.”
We often work through the difference between reactive and proactive language with our kids.
As I do so with them, I find myself realizing how often I choose reactive language myself. And, in doing so, I lose the opportunity to let proactive language bring the accountability and agency that transforms the conversation.
