Person has casual sexual encounters twice a week but has not engaged in penetrative sex.

Kelley is a transgender woman living in South Africa. Despite being single, she is comfortable in her skin and enjoys sharing her body with whoever she chooses. She prefers "outercourse," focusing on foreplay and dry humping, and refers to herself as a "side" rather than a top or bottom.

Kelley's journey to self-acceptance was not always easy. She realized she was transgender at the age of 15 and began transitioning at 19. While she initially felt self-conscious, she now feels more confident and liberated in all areas of her life.

As part of Metro's series, "How I Do It," Kelley shares a sneak peek into her sex life for seven days. On Monday, she is in the mood for something sensual and turns to her favorite audio erotica platform, Dipsea. On Tuesday, feeling bored and wanting to flirt, she downloads Tinder and starts chatting with potential matches. On Wednesday, she connects with a guy named Dylan who is not bothered by her being transgender.

Throughout her journey, Kelley has found that her coming out has been mostly positive. Her family and friends accept her, and she is able to be more open and intimate in all of her relationships. She feels joy more often and is no longer ashamed or guarded.

Kelley's sex diary is not safe for work as she describes her self-pleasure on Monday and her conversations with potential dates on Tuesday. On Wednesday, she connects with Dylan, who stands out from the rest and is her usual type.

Kelley is comfortable with who she is and enjoys exploring her sexuality in whatever way feels right for her. She also encourages others to sign up for Metro's sex and dating newsletter, "The Hook-Up," for juicy stories and tips on how to spice things up in the bedroom.
Kelley refers to herself as a 'side'

Welcome to 'How I Do It', a series in which we take a close look at the sex life of a complete stranger over the course of a week. This week, we hear from Kelley Nele, a 27-year-old sex and relationship educator from South Africa. Despite being single, Kelley has partnered sex twice a week on average. She identifies as a transgender woman and is comfortable in her skin and sharing her body with whomever she pleases.

Kelley prefers to focus on the pleasure that comes from foreplay and dry humping, rather than traditional intercourse. She refers to herself as a 'side' instead of a top or bottom. But this wasn't always the case for Kelley. She first felt out of place at the young age of five and didn't realize she was transgender until she was 15. Kelley began her transition at 19, starting with small changes like braiding her hair and wearing more feminine clothing.

"At first, I was self-conscious," Kelley says. "But as I continued to embrace my true self, I found it easier to be open about my gender identity and as a result, I have more intimacy in all of my relationships. I am now more expressive and liberated, both emotionally and sexually."

Without further ado, here's a look into Kelley's week:

Monday

After finishing my work for the day, I finally have some free time to do whatever I want. I could catch up on my favorite TV show, play video games, or work out. But today, I'm in the mood for something a little more sensual. So, I close the blinds, shut the door, and settle onto my bed.

I scroll through my "spank-bank" of saved photos and videos, but for some reason, nothing is really doing it for me. I'm excited, but not as much as I could be. I try to immerse myself in the content, but it's just not working. Frustrated, I throw my phone aside and remember an old friend: Dipsea.

Dipsea is my go-to platform for audio erotica. The stories are written by women, for women, and they always feel so real and relatable. I find a threesome scene with two men and let my imagination run wild. Before long, I'm playing with myself and having a great time.

Tuesday

Today, I have the day off and I've already caught up on all my favorite shows. My friends are busy, and there's nothing interesting happening on social media. I'm bored and looking for something to do. I haven't been on a date in a while and I'm craving some flirtatious attention.

I decide to re-download Tinder, even though I promised myself I wouldn't use it again. I create a new profile and start swiping. After a few hours, I have a pool of potential matches and I start chatting with a few of them. I don't plan on going out with anyone tonight, but at least I have something to do now.

I only disclose that I'm transgender to the guys I'm interested in pursuing something with. In the past, I was too nervous to tell men, but now I am upfront about it early on.

Wednesday

Out of all the matches, one guy stands out to me – Dylan. He's tall, dark, and handsome, just my type. Like most guys I encounter, Dylan knows I'm trans and it doesn't bother him. We've exchanged numbers and have been chatting on WhatsApp.

Thursday

Dylan and I have been talking all week and we finally decide to meet in person. We have dinner at a cozy restaurant and the conversation flows effortlessly. We have a lot in common and there's definitely a spark between us. After dinner, we take a walk and end up making out in the park like teenagers. It's exhilarating and I'm excited to see where things go with Dylan.

Friday

I'm feeling a bit lazy today, so I invite Dylan over to watch a movie. We cuddle on the couch and enjoy each other's company. But as the movie heats up, so do we. We end up having some steamy foreplay and I am more than satisfied.

Saturday

I have a busy day full of errands and appointments, but Dylan and I make plans to meet up for a quick lunch. We end up at a cute café and have a great time chatting and getting to know each other more. I can't help but think that this could be something special.

Sunday

I spend the day relaxing and getting ready for the week ahead. Dylan and I text each other throughout the day, and I can't help but feel excited about where this could be going. I'm happy with where I am in life and my journey of coming out as transgender. And now, I have the added joy of connecting with someone who accepts me for who I am. Life is good.

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