If you aren’t actively spending time and energy optimizing toward an outcome, don’t be surprised when someone else is getting said outcome as a result of time they’ve spent optimizing toward it.
For the most part, outcomes – good and bad – are a result of our processes. Our processes, in turn, are a result of what we’re optimizing toward. And, if we’re thoughtful, what we’re optimizing toward is a combination of our awareness about the possibilities and of how we’ll measure our lives.
When we’re faced with a sense of FOMO or envy or surprise about a surprising outcome that someone else managed, that’s the place to start.
Are we aware that process is a possibility?
Would we want to do it / would doing it align with how we’d measure our lives?
