October 19th 2024.
She is having a hard time processing the news that her boyfriend has a secret life and shares the same sense of humor as her. Our relationship often feels like we are two peas in a pod, but we haven't yet taken the step to live together. This made it easy for him to keep his secret hidden from me. I never suspected anything was wrong and even suggested that we move in together after a year of dating. It seemed like a logical step and would save us both a lot of money, as we currently rent two separate flats.
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I was taken aback by his cold response to the idea of moving in together and couldn't help but wonder if he was using his apartment to entertain other women. After a few weeks of him brushing off my suggestion, I finally mustered up the courage to ask for the reason behind his reluctance. That's when he broke down and revealed the truth to me.
Now, I can't help but feel a bit anxious about spending the rest of my life with someone who enjoys "dressing up". But at the same time, the thought of ending our relationship fills me with sadness. Would you stay with your partner if they shared a secret like this? Share your thoughts with us.
As a counsellor and columnist, I have seen many people in your situation struggle to come to terms with their partner's cross-dressing. But let's take a step back and look at what your boyfriend has actually done. Think about unforgivable acts like coercive control, cheating, and domestic abuse – your partner hasn't done any of those things. What he has done is keep a part of himself hidden from you, probably because he feared your reaction.
I empathize with your situation and understand that it may not be easy to accept this new information. But we must remember that we live in a world that is becoming more and more inclusive. It's important to realize that men who cross-dress are not necessarily transgender or gay. They are often heterosexual males who find dressing in women's clothes as a form of self-expression or escape from traditional gender roles. It's important not to pressure your boyfriend to change who he is.
It's also essential to remember that this is just one small aspect of your boyfriend's identity. Up until now, you thought he was the perfect partner, and that doesn't have to change. Take some time to let everything sink in and seek advice and support online. Connecting with others who are in similar situations may make it easier for you to adjust.
If you saw a future with your boyfriend before his confession, there's no reason why you can't still have that future. Don't let this one revelation overshadow all the happy moments you've shared together. And if you need expert advice, don't hesitate to send your dilemma to Laura.email. She's always here to help with any sex and dating questions you may have.
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