November 21st 2024.
I want to share my thoughts as a supporter of The Female Boss. Let's take a moment to recognize and applaud The Female Boss. Recently, Tulisa revealed on I'm A Celebrity Get Me Out Of Here that she identifies as demisexual. As a 36-year-old singer-songwriter and former member of N-Dubz, she explained that she needs a strong emotional bond with someone before engaging in physical intimacy. This term may have caused confusion or eye-rolling for some, but that's exactly why it's important to talk about it openly.
As someone who also identifies as demisexual, I can relate to Tulisa's experience. From a young age, I knew I wasn't straight. However, as a teenager, my access to same-sex relationships was limited and often centered around physical intimacy. This led to a struggle of separating sex from emotion, and I made some mistakes as a result. I thought I had to offer one in order to receive the other, which caused some emotional scars. It became difficult for me to form friendships with other men, and I found myself agreeing to encounters I didn't truly want.
As I entered my 30s, I began to understand myself better and how my emotions and brain work. While casual encounters don't make me physically sick like Tulisa, I often don't feel anything from them. This is where the term "demisexual" came into play for me. It encompasses the idea that a strong emotional bond or connection is necessary for me to engage in or enjoy physical relationships.
It wasn't until I was in my 30s that I first heard the term "demisexual." Finally, there was a word that described how I had been feeling. I remember bringing it up with friends, only to be laughed at and told it wasn't a real thing. It made me feel embarrassed and I haven't talked about it much since. However, I do feel it's important to share my experience and support others who identify as demisexual.
I am writing this article not just as someone who identifies as demisexual, but also as a fan of Tulisa. I have been following her career since N-Dubz burst onto the music scene when I was in high school. I've seen her face constant criticism and discrimination, which often stems from misogynistic classism. I've also had the privilege of seeing her perform live, including at a fundraiser for LGBTQ+ youth facing homelessness. She truly embodies the title of The Female Boss and is adored by many.
To have someone like Tulisa openly discuss demisexuality on a national platform is a huge step forward. Understanding and respecting the diverse ways in which people navigate sex, love, dating, and intimacy is crucial for creating healthy and fulfilling relationships. This conversation goes beyond demisexuality and is important for the representation and acceptance of all types of relationships. Personally, it's reassuring to hear someone else speak about feelings and experiences that I can relate to, especially when it's coming from The Female Boss herself.
Do you have a story to share? I'd love to hear from you. Let's continue this conversation and promote understanding and acceptance in the comments below.
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