February 15th 2025.
From left to right, we have Rachel, Aaron, and Kasey, beaming with joy at their commitment ceremony. It's hard to believe that after 20 years of marriage, Rachel and Aaron would find themselves welcoming a new member into their family. Kasey, at 33 years old, joined their relationship to form a throuple, and after five years, they can confidently say that it has brought profound happiness to all three of them.
This trio considers themselves to be in a three-way marriage, even though only Rachel and Aaron are legally married. They do everything that a regular couple would do, from navigating their nine-to-fives to coming home to each other at the end of the day. As Rachael, a psychologist, explains, they share a bed and follow a routine that includes going to the gym, working, walking the dog, cooking, doing dishes, and enjoying various activities together, such as watching shows, traveling, going out to eat, and attending concerts.
It's clear that this throuple has some serious perks compared to the traditional couple dynamic. As Rachel mentions, one of the biggest advantages is that there's always someone to engage with. If one partner isn't in the mood for something, it creates an opportunity for the other two to connect without pressure. They like to say that it's always a party, never a crowd. They prioritize intentional quality time by rotating their schedule, and they even have a triad date weekly.
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Rachel and Aaron first met Kasey through the dating app Bumble. After chatting with a few people, Kasey, a customer training manager, was the first woman they decided to meet up with. When they finally met, Rachel recalls that everything just felt right. She remembers feeling butterflies, uncertainty, and even fear when she and Aaron first opened up their marriage. For years, something felt missing, and then Kasey came into their lives, and everything clicked.
However, their newfound throuple didn't initially go down too well with friends and family. As Rachel explains, there was a lot of shock and even fear at first. They were dropping a big change on their loved ones, and people naturally filled in the gaps with their own assumptions. But over time, as their close circle saw their love deepen, they began to come to terms with the relationship. Rachel says that most of them have become incredibly supportive, and through education and open conversations, they have broken down misconceptions. Now, they encourage and celebrate the throuple's relationship, recognizing that their bond is just as meaningful and committed as any traditional couple's.
Although it works for them, the throuple has received some backlash online, with some people claiming that Kasey is a gold-digger or that she will run away with one of them. Rachel has heard some common concerns, such as people thinking that she is actually a lesbian and will leave Aaron for Kasey, or that Kasey is a home-wrecker trying to take advantage of the situation. Others assume that Aaron must be wealthy or exceptionally well-endowed. Some people have even gone so far as to brand their relationship as morally and religiously wrong.
Despite the negative comments, Rachel and Aaron have been happily together for five years. They held a triad commitment ceremony in November 2023, solidifying their love for each other. While some people mistakenly refer to Kasey and Rachel as "sister wives," this is not the case. This term refers to a polygamous dynamic where a woman is one of multiple wives to a single man, and it is illegal in the UK.
On TikTok, the couple shares their journey at @dreachaelmeircoaching, and while they receive many positive comments and questions about their relationship, there are also some negative posts. Some people have expressed their doubts, saying that the throuple won't last, while others have called their relationship a sinful one. However, there are also those who are curious and express interest in finding their own third partner, like one person who commented, "We'd love to find our third."
For the throuple, outside judgments don't make a difference. As Rachel explains, they are all on the same page and continue to build their life together as a committed triad. They prioritize differentiation of self, meaning that they each communicate as individuals with their own identities while also working together to accommodate each other's autonomy, freedom, and choices. While some family members may not fully understand or support their relationship, they ultimately just want them to be happy.
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