After finally having a miracle baby, my interest in sex has vanished.

Being a new mom is both emotionally and physically exhausting. The pressure of taking care of a newborn can take a toll on any couple, even the closest of them. For our reader in this week's Sex Column, the journey of fertility struggles has added an extra layer to her current situation, making intimacy the last thing on her mind.

Although she is overjoyed to finally be a mother, her libido has plummeted, and it is affecting her relationship with her husband. It's not easy to balance everything, and with her husband working long hours, she often finds herself feeling exhausted and drained. When they go to bed, sex is the last thing on her mind, but her husband still expects her to be in the mood. She tries her best not to come across as uncaring or frigid, but the truth is, she doesn't enjoy sex and often makes excuses to avoid it.

This has caused tension between them, and during a recent argument, she even told him to go and pay for a prostitute if he just wanted to get laid. Deep down, she knows this is not what she wants, as it would only spell the end of their marriage. After struggling for four years to conceive a baby, they are now slowly tearing each other apart.

Their sex life was already going downhill before she got pregnant, and now with a newborn, rekindling their love and passion seems impossible. She wonders if anyone else has experienced a drop in libido after having a baby and asks for advice.

In response, it is suggested that postnatal depression has been ruled out by her health visitor, which is a relief. The advice is to look at other possible reasons for her current struggles. It is possible that she and her husband saw sex as a way to make a baby, rather than simply enjoying it as an expression of love. The strict schedule and pressure of timing can take away the spontaneity and excitement that should come with sex.

Now that they have a baby, the reality is not as wonderful as they expected. They are both exhausted and resentful, and she feels guilty for not being completely happy. This negative cycle is trapping her, and it's a common experience for first-time parents. However, it's important to communicate openly and honestly with her husband about her feelings. Instead of being snappy, they should talk and work together to find a solution.

It's also vital to ask for help from friends and family. They can take on small tasks like laundry or shopping, giving her the opportunity to catch up on some much-needed rest. It's important not to lose hope and remember that as long as the love between them is still there, they will eventually rediscover the passion they had before.

The advice ends with a reminder that Laura, the columnist, is always available to offer expert advice on any sex and dating dilemma. Readers can send their problems to her through email.

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