January 31st 2025.
Bethany had always struggled with body confidence, particularly due to her experience as a "bearded woman". However, in recent years, she has learned to embrace and love her body, including her excess hair growth, in defiance of societal beauty standards. This has been a liberating and joyful journey for her, despite facing bullying and discrimination from others.
In this week's edition of "How I Do It," we hear from Bethany, a pansexual and gender fluid journalist from London. She is single and has sex approximately three times a month. Bethany is also a part of the kink and BDSM community, and she is excited to share her experiences with us.
On Monday, Bethany wakes up with a crush on her mind. She decides to invite them to a shibari beginners' class, a Japanese bondage technique, but they are unavailable. Undeterred, she suggests future events, hoping to get them involved in the kink scene. In the afternoon, she gets a response from her crush, expressing interest in future events. Bethany then turns to her experienced dom for some kinky fun at the London Fetish Film Festival.
The next day, Bethany records an episode of her podcast, where she interviews the founder of a queer kinky rave. She then spends the day editing a video on prostate massages for a wellness platform. In her pursuit of her crush, she sends them a link to an "impact play" workshop, which they decline. Bethany tries to remind herself that BDSM is a journey and not a race, but she can't help but feel a little impatient and insecure.
On Wednesday, Bethany musters up the courage to invite her crush once again, this time to her mother's house. She knows they love dogs, so she offers to look after her mother's golden retriever. While waiting for their response, she invites her kinky mentor over for some playtime, but they end up just relaxing and giving each other massages. As they part ways, Bethany asks for a big hug, which he happily obliges, giving her a tap on the bottom before leaving.
Overall, Bethany's week is filled with various kink and BDSM events, as well as attempts to involve her crush in the scene. She remains confident and unapologetic about her sexuality, and she is eager to continue exploring and expanding her experiences.
Bethany's struggle with body confidence has been ongoing for most of her life. As a pansexual, gender fluid journalist living in London, she has always been open about her sexuality and her involvement in the kink and BDSM scene. However, one aspect of her appearance has caused her a great deal of distress - her excess hair growth. Despite numerous doctor visits, the cause of her excessive hair has never been determined. This has left Bethany feeling self-conscious and insecure for many years.
It wasn't until six years ago that Bethany made a decision to embrace her body hair. She stopped bleaching her arm hair, let her leg and armpit hair grow, and even allowed her "bush" to flourish. And during the pandemic, she took it a step further and grew out her facial hair, revealing a blond-brown beard. This act of defiance against societal norms that dictate women should be hair-free everywhere brought Bethany a sense of empowerment and joy.
However, despite her newfound self-love and confidence, Bethany still faces bullying and discrimination. She often experiences people pointing and swearing at her in public, causing her to feel hurt and frustrated. But overall, Bethany sees her journey to self-acceptance as a gift and is grateful for the ability to love herself fully.
In this week's installment of "How I Do It," we follow Bethany's sex life as she navigates her desires and relationships. As a single person, she engages in sexual activities around three times a month. And as a member of the kink and BDSM community, she has a variety of experiences and interests. Bethany's diary is not safe for work, so reader discretion is advised.
Monday greets Bethany with thoughts of her crush, a shy tech bro that she has been crushing on for a while. She has been trying to find ways to engage him in the kink scene, and today she decides to invite him to a shibari beginners' class, a type of Japanese bondage. She also has plans to attend the London Fetish Film Festival and a kink party this week. Excited about the potential of having her crush join her, she messages him, but he declines, stating that he is busy. Not wanting to push him, Bethany decides to invite her regular partner, an experienced dominatrix, instead. They agree to attend the festival together, and he promises to reward her with some kinky play afterwards.
On Tuesday, Bethany records an episode of her podcast, The Sassy Show, where she interviews the founder of a queer kinky rave in London. She then spends some time editing a video she made for a sensual wellness platform, this time about prostate massages. Feeling bold, she sends another invitation to her crush, this time for an "impact play" workshop. This type of play involves consensual hitting or being hit during sexual activities. But once again, her crush declines, stating that he is not ready for that type of experience. Bethany tries to remind herself that BDSM is a journey, not a sprint, but she can't help feeling a bit impatient and insecure. Maybe this crush isn't the right person for her.
On Wednesday, Bethany decides to take a chance and send yet another invitation to her crush. She asks him to come over and hang out with her and her mum's adorable golden retriever. While waiting for his response, she invites her kinky mentor over to keep her company. They usually engage in various forms of play, but this time they opt for a relaxing evening of massages. As they say goodbye, Bethany asks for a big hug, and her mentor obliges, squeezing her tightly before giving her a playful tap on the bottom.
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